Our beliefs are powerful tools. They control what we think is true about ourselves, our lives and other people. Sometimes beliefs about ourself are not true. These are called limiting self-beliefs or I prefer self-limiting beliefs. Calling them this creates a picture in my head about why they are so destructive. They cage us and stop us from doing or being our full selves - we are "self-limiting". These negative beliefs are often formed in our youth, and held onto throughout our lives, never having their accuracy challenged.
Limiting self beliefs sound a bit like this:
"I’m not good enough”
“Who am I to do that?”
“I am lazy”
“I’m too fat”
“I’m not consistent”
Thankfully, beliefs can be challenged, and exchanged to a more accurate, helpful alternative. This is the A-F model for Challenging Limiting Self-beliefs (from @animascoaching) that I often use with clients in my coaching sessions.
Activating Event - What typically triggers this belief to show its ugly head?
Belief - What is the actual belief? Sometimes this might not be the one that is obvious, so may need a bit of a dig into.
Consequences - What are the consequences to your life for holding onto this belief as true?
Discounting - How COULD this belief be wrong? Are there any examples in your life where you haven’t been [lazy / too fat / not good enough] ?
Exchange - What positive alternative could you believe about yourself?
Future - When and how could you test this new belief for yourself? Get into action.
Do you find yourself limiting what you can and can’t do or be? Maybe underneath those rules is a belief keeping you caged in. What alternative could you believe about yourself to get you closer to the you of your dreams?
If you need some 1:1 support to find out what beliefs you're holding onto, or how to exchange them for positive alternatives, book a coaching discovery call to find out how coaching could help.